daily_english_reading/only-wants-to-keep-sleeping-with-me.md

I’m falling in love with someone who doesn’t want a relationship but likes me and wants to keep sleeping with me, what should I do?

This reminds me of one popular analogy.

A person used to feed a puppy with unadulterated cow milk every single day. With lot of love.

The puppy grew up to be a loyal dog. It gaurded him and his house till his death.

Another person saw this and and fed a baby snake with unadulterated cow milk every single day. With lot of love and an ounce of affection.

The snake grew up and bit him one day.

He wondered why the snake never had loyalty, while the people around him wondered why he never had commonsense to not expect loyalty from snakes.

The top line of the bottomline is

Your love may not be that powerful to change the nature of people.

Accept this first.

He has clearly mentioned his boundaries and established his nature. Respect that and try to align your expectations from your relationship with him accordingly.

Even if you want to try changing his opinion, consider it is a risk with win or lose situation. Prepare your heart that it is going to hurt and yet you want to try it.

Or if it is hurting you to have feelings for him and yet conform to his expectations, better give it up and cut all ties with him.

Always check whether you mind and body are feeling safe and comfortable when you are in any relationship and give this the utmost priority.

我爱上了一个不想要关系但喜欢我并想继续和我睡觉的人，我该怎么办？ 这让我想起了一个流行的类比。

一个人曾经每天用纯牛奶喂养小狗。充满爱。

小狗长大后是一只忠诚的狗。它一直困扰着他和他的房子，直到他去世。

另一个人看到了这一点，每天用纯牛奶喂一条小蛇。带着很多爱和一丝感情。

有一天，蛇长大了，咬了他。

他想知道为什么蛇从来没有忠诚，而他周围的人想知道为什么他从来没有常识不指望蛇的忠诚。

底线的顶线是

你的爱可能没有那么强大，无法改变人的本性。

首先接受这一点。

他清楚地提到了自己的界限，确立了自己的本性。尊重这一点，并尝试相应地调整你对他关系的期望。

即使你想尝试改变他的观点，也要考虑这是输赢的风险。准备好你的心，它会很痛，但你想尝试一下。

或者，如果对他有感情却符合他的期望会伤害你，最好放弃它并切断与他的所有联系。

始终检查您的身心在任何关系中时是否感到安全和舒适，并优先考虑这一点。